December 2009
94 posts
November 2009
154 posts
Random thought of the day: People look better when they wear lipstick.
Seriously, they do.
Why I won't read (or see) "Twilight".
According to the National Domestic Violence hotline, these are some signs that you may be in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.
Does your partner:
* Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
Check.
* Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
“Stay away from the werewolves. I love you.”
* Make all of the decisions?
Check.
* Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
“If I wasn’t so attracted to you, I wouldn’t have to break up with you.”
* Threaten to commit suicide?
“I just can’t live without you. In fact, I’ll run to Italy and try suicide by vampire if anything happens to you.”
* Threaten to kill you?
On their first date.
These are some more signs of an abusive relationship.
Has your partner…
* Tried to isolate you from family or friends.
Bella doesn’t have time for anyone else!
* Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
Check.
* Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
Does tossing her through a glass table count?
* Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
“We’re breaking up. And I’m leaving you in the forest.”
* Scared you by driving recklessly.
Check.
* Forced you to leave your home.
She had to run away with him to flee from the other vampires in the first movie, and she had to drop everything and run to Italy in the second.
* Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
Check. Even in the hospital, nothing is a big deal.
* Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
Well, they are Mormon… (I know, I know, cheap shot.)
* Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
Check, wolf-boy.
Now I’m pissed. According to the NDVH, “If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.” This list is fifteen.
Ivan has agreed to me using some white paint in the kitchen! White paint! You have no idea how HUGE this is.
Painting the kitchen commences on Friday. I’ll try and post some before/after pictures.
Bad Hair Day
I got my haircut on Friday by the best darn hairstylist in the whole of Seattle. But, you know what? It looks ‘meh’ today.
Absolutely no reflection on Sean’s ability, just due to the fact that I am in that awkward space between ‘long’ and ‘short’. To short to pull back, to long to do anything but hang there.
I look like I’m a character on some mid-seventies sitcom who wears polyester pants with the pleats sewn down the front and argyle sweater vests.
Becoming the Alpha Dog in Your Own Home →
nytimes.com
“When we started watching his shows, we had intended to apply his advice toward our dogs,” said Amy Twomey, a blogger on parenthood for The Dallas Morning News who is raising three children under 10 with her husband, Matt. “But we realized a lot of ideas can be used on our kids.”
Crazy? I don’t think so. As a (to-be) teacher, I’ve been told and can see that they just want structure and a reliable authority figure.
You know this reminds me of a Sandra Dee movie I loved as a kid: If A Man Answers.
In this case, dog training was used on a husband, not a child, and I don’t know if I would love the movie now but I have fond memories of it.
Also? I totally agree with fishy’s assessment.
Play
poem: I Am Not Yours
I am not yours, not lost in you,
Not lost, although I long to be
Lost as a candle lit at noon,
Lost as a snowflake in the sea.
You love me, and I find you still
A spirit beautiful and bright,
Yet I am I, who long to be
Lost as a light is lost in light.
Oh plunge me deep in love, put out
My senses, leave me deaf and blind,
Swept by the tempest of your love,
A taper in a rushing wind.
-Sara Teasdale
